This year the term
was officially added to the oxford dictionary. The term made famous by celebrities such as Taylor Swift has made us all wanting our own #squadgoals
If there’s one thing that I’ve learn’t when it comes to friendship it is that it is quality over quantity. Coming from an all girls high school I feel I am equipped enough to talk on this topic. Looking back at my high school days, if there’s one thing that I would change it would have been to ignore and not feed into gossip and realise that popularity really is a figment of the imagination that ends after high school. Being now graduated two years out of high school I can honestly say that I only keep in touch with a handful of people I went to school with and only one of them I am still very close with now. (Karen if you are reading this you really are the best!)
When I graduated high school I remember my mum giving me a piece of advice that has stuck ever since. Yes it’s a bit cringe but stick with me. She would say that friendship is like a elevator. At some stops people will get out and some will ride to the top. Having solid friendships is absolutely necessary in allowing us to function as human beings and also figure out who we are and what we want in life. So here are your top tips for creating your ultimate squad.
Surround yourself with people who will make you happy and also push you
One thing that I’ve learn’t when it comes to friendship is to surround myself with positive and like minded people. You want to surround yourself with people who are going to build you up rather than tear you down. I think it’s also important to realise what you deserve. I like to go by the philosophy of you get what you put in and like any other relationship friendship is a two way street.
It shouldn’t matter how regularly you catch up with a person because if you both put in the effort then you should be able to pick up right where you left the last time you caught up. I absolutely love catching up with my girlfriends who i’m still close with from high school because there is a history there and even though we’re at different stages in life when we get together it’s like time was never a thing… Picking back up right from where we left off.
Network, network, network!
I think its important to create solid friendships with like minded people. People who might share similar interests to you. This is where networking is really great. Usually when I think of networking I think of it in a business sense, but networking even if it is to further your career is essential for your social life. A big part of networking is putting yourself out there. Try going to that party or social event. Try talking to someone knew, even if it’s daunting. Being yourself is something that speaks for itself. It can be so easy to try and be follower but I challenge you to be a trend setter instead.
Treat others how you would want to be treated yourself
I say this all time but in life no matter how sh*tty a person may be… Be nice! Killing with kindness is important to live by. Just being a nice person will get you places trust me because you never know when you are going to want have a favour returned.
Not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay!!
This is a big one for me because I am a constant warrior and people pleaser. But sometimes you just have to wake up and face the facts that you might not be everyones cup of tea. It’s important to realise that you will probably come across people in life who won’t like you for whatever reason. Learning to be the bigger person is crucial as it sets a foundation for your own expectations.